James Clear — The #1 Regret From the Lives of Dying Hospital Patients (And How to Avoid It)If you never draw a line in the sand and clarify what is really important to you, then you’ll end up doing what’s expected of you. When you don’t have a clear purpose driving you forward, you default to doing what other people approve of. We’re not sure what we really want, and so we do what we think other people want.